Saturday, February 20, 2010

Men Simple, yet Hard

Men are simple but yet hard to explain. That’s a weird thing to say for a starting sentence, but it is true. I should know, out of my best friend list of 5 people, 2 of them are men. And those men are simple but hard to explain their actions. I said that phrase to a group of women today, when they were talking about their men and why haven’t they asked to marry them, and I got a reaction that, I could say was, mixed.

A woman said: No they are not simple to understand, they do not know what they want. That’s why they don’t want to get marriage or even have a stable relationship!

Well, I can vouch that men do know what they want in life. They want to be successful. That’s it. Watch any movie about men, any mob movie, and movie that has most of the population of men in it, its about them trying to be successful, or die trying. Or ask a man why they do illegal things to get money, they do it to one day get enough money so they can say that they are successful. Why do men put rims on their cars, or even have gold teeth, that prove that they did something so big and great that it earn them enough money to be successful to get those items. We women do the same with the Coach purses, and the Gucci shoes, but it’s not the same. Before a man decides to have a stable relationship to the point of marriage, then they need to be successful. Point Blank. Us women, we want to get married even if the success level isn’t there yet. Don’t get mad about that statement, because we know it’s true. Men need to feel like they can take care of you always. It is in their genes. They have always been taught that they are the bread winners and that even though the woman is making money too, that they can provide for you just in case something goes wrong. That will always be in that mind set. So if you’re in a relationship, and they don’t have a job, or they are not trying to get some money in their hand, they are not about to marry you. And if they want to get married to you, then you are not about to marry a man, you’re about to marry a person that wants you to take care of him so later on in life, he can leave you, with all the things you taught him, and find him another woman to show off his successful trait.

Being with a man that wants to grow, and is trying to be a better man by going to college, and getting a job that will make him proud is great but you have to bare with him. That’s the hard part, the waiting for a ring. You want it now; especially if you think the time is right. And it’s hard to explain why it’s time to a man, because in a man’s head, he thinks that, why is this woman rushing me if I’m not ready. Then it gets harder, and can’t be explained. He knows when he going to get married, then he will tell you. If you ask him after a year of dating and he barely just got his new job, then you’re not going to like the answer to his question, and it gets hard for you. He isn’t going to drag on the relationship for the rest of his life, if he really wants to marry you so you have to give it time. If you can’t wait, get a hobby, learn how to sew, take a cooking class, something that will get your mind out of wondering if he is going to ask you. Because the more you sit on that statement “This ninja is never going to marry me.” We as a woman go crazy, and when we go crazy we take it out of our men. Then it gets hard for the man, and then it’s hard to explain the actions afterward. There you have it. In black and white. Take the advice or leave it, but someone gave me that advice two years ago, and I should send that person a fruit basket, or bake some brownies.

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